Beyoncé’s personal essay in the September issue of Vogue Magazine titled: ‘Beyoncé in Her Own Words: Her Life, Her Body, Her Heritage’ didn’t just break the internet and set Twitter on fire. It also started an important conversation about body positivity and the reality surrounding childbirth. I watch in awe as many celebrities snap back in what seems like weeks after giving birth, and even though the fifty heart eyes emojis I comment under their photos are genuine, I find myself secretly loathing my FUPA (fatty upper pubic area) and asking, “why can’t my body do that?”
I’ve been on a weight loss journey for about a year now, and my progress can best be summed as a gradual process with visible results and a hint of frustration. I eat healthily and work out twice a day. But for some reason, the fat thinks we belong together. I was in the gym doing sit-ups when Kylie dropped the ‘To our daughter’ video on YouTube, six months later, I’m still doing sit-ups while staring at her perfectly toned abs on Instagram with envy.
I understand that everybody’s journey and metabolism is different. But I’m tired of saying, “damn, I can’t relate”. I guess that’s why I found it to be very refreshing to see Beyoncé basically write, “No, I’m not pregnant. That’s my new tummy.”
For decades, we have been plagued with unrealistic standards of beauty, now there’s the societal pressure on what a woman’s body should look like after childbirth. We feel pressured to look perfect from our makeup application, right down to the body underneath the sexy clothes. And when that doesn’t happen, we’re body shamed by men, and sadly, each other.
What truly matters is self-love, confidence, embracing your flaws, and making decisions that make you happy.
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“To this day my arms, shoulders, breasts, and thighs are fuller. I have a little mommy pouch, and I’m in no rush to get rid of it. I think it’s real. Whenever I’m ready to get a six-pack, I will go into beast zone and work my ass off until I have it. But right now, my little FUPA and I feel like we are meant to be”.
“My boobs are definitely like, three times the size, which bothers me. I have like, stretch marks on my boobs. I feel like, you know, my stomach isn’t the same and my waist is the same and my butt’s bigger and my thighs are bigger, like everything”.
“I thought something was wrong with me. I had seen in magazines the many women on the beach a few weeks postpartum in a two piece. To be honest, it had to take time for me to embrace my new body. If it takes a while for me to get back to my normal self, then so be it.”