According to experts, there are scientific techniques that can make anyone you desire to fall deeply in love with you. I’m talking real love; the you’re-proof-that-hope-exists-in-world-where-Trump-is still-president kind of love.
But let’s face it, there’s nothing romantic about:
“Well Alice, here’s how I made your mother fall in love with me.”
“Wait, dad, did you just say you made her?”
“Let me finish baby…first, I read a groundbreaking article, then I took her to a quiet place and stared deeply into her eyes for approximately 30 seconds without blinking…”
Now, Alice is already crushing hard on that cute boy in her class, we wouldn’t want her to take a boy full of testosterone to a quiet place and stare deeply into his eyes for 30 seconds, would we? But the question still remains, how do you make someone fall in love with you? The answer: you don’t, and even if you can, you shouldn’t.
There’s a reason why seducing a man isn’t enough to keep him and why showering a woman with gifts isn’t enough to keep her. Love stays when it comes on its own—without force, ultimatums, or any form of coercion. You don’t have to work hard, follow a set of rules, or do anything special to make someone fall in love with you when you can just be yourself.
So how can you be yourself?
- Don’t change your personality to suit anyone.
- Learn to feel comfortable in your skin.
- Accept who you are and love your imperfections.
- Trust your intuition and make your own decisions.
- Identify your core values or beliefs and stick to it.
- Exhibit the same behaviour to anyone you meet.
- Speak your mind in a mature and thoughtful way.
- Find your purpose and follow your heart.
- Identify the best version of yourself and work toward it.
- Don’t change your interests to have common interests with him/her.
When you’re yourself, you don’t have to try to keep up with your stories or force yourself to exhibit the same behavioural pattern. Real attracts real, and what you exhibit will play a big role in pulling people into your life. Like the saying goes, “Be yourself, everyone else is taken.”
Believe it or not, it’s the little things, mostly things you’re unaware of can make someone become fascinated by you. It could be your smile or generosity; or the way you tuck your hair behind your ears. It could be how you ramble on and on when you’re nervous or your sense of humour. It could be your confidence or how deeply you love your friends and family.
Experts can’t teach these things because they all come from within. Neither can they explain the concept of love without ruining the magic of butterflies. You may succeed in making someone fall in love with you. But ask yourself, did you make the right person fall in love with you?