Perhaps you’ve gotten a little too comfortable in the relationship so she’d say, “we need to talk.” This version is often accompanied by a sombre mood and an expressionless face.
She hopes that with these words, you’ll start to panic and by some miraculous means, realise that you haven’t been doing a good job lately. Hopefully, you’ll get the message and get your act together.
But there’s another possibility: you’re amazing and always on your A-game but she’ll hit you with this phrase because she wants your complete attention.
A woman is a very interesting creature, and it takes a very patient and curious man to be with her. Sometimes past experiences can cause her to withhold information. Here, “we need to talk” means, I need to talk and you need to listen. Don’t judge me, just listen.
Now the ball is in your court; listen attentively and don’t interrupt before she gets everything out. You may be surprised, hurt, or angry by what she has to say, and even if your reactions are justified, don’t do something that will discourage her from opening up in the future.
She may be indecisive about her clothes but when it comes to you, she knows exactly what she wants and needs to know if you’re both on the same page. This particular “we need to talk” makes her more nervous than it makes you.
She doesn’t want to push you away or make you feel like she’s giving you pressure this conversation needs to happen. Your future together depends on it. She needs to know if you’re in for the long haul or if she’ll be waiting for something that may never happen.
The depth and seriousness of this conversation depend on how long you’ve been together.
Some people genuinely fall out of love—it’s a real thing, but we can’t deny how painful it must be to be left alone and heartbroken. It’s an incredibly sad thing to lose someone you love.
Breakups can be very messy because of all the emotions involved, but it’s up to both of you to make a conscious decision to part on good terms.
Life is too short to hold a grudge. You don’t have to remain friends or prove anything to the world. But when there’s a possibility of parting ways amicably, take it.
This type of “we need to talk” could mean a plethora of things: she either wants to confirm what she already knows, play mind games with you until you get uncomfortable and spill what you’ve done; or she just wants the two of you to spend some time together.
So what do you do? Show some excitement and look forward to it. You may never know, this talk could lead to some interesting conversations.